●Make sure your student athlete understands that win or lose, you love him or her.
● Be realistic about your student athlete’s physical ability.
● Help your student athlete set realistic goals.
● Emphasize “improved” performance, not winning.
● Don’t relive your own athletic past through your student athlete.
● Control your emotions at games and events.
● Be a “cheerleader” for your student athlete and others on the team.
● Respect your student athlete’s coaches. Communicate with them in a positive way. Encourage others to do the same.
● Be a positive role model!
● Be sensible, responsible, and keep your priorities in order. There is more at stake than a win or loss record.
The Role of Parents
Athletic events are learning experiences for student athletes. Entrance into a contest is a privilege to observe athletic tests of skills, not to verbally assault others or be obnoxious. Audiences may forget that middle school athletes have not reached mature physical performance, so errors are expected. Moreover, audiences who learn the rules of the sport are less likely to criticize officials, players, or coaches.
● Remember that you are at a contest to support and yell for your teamand to enjoy the skill and competition, not to intimidate or ridicule the other team and its fans.
● Remember that interscholastic athletics are learning experiences for students and that mistakes are sometimes made. Praise student athletes in their attempts to improve themselves as students, as athletes and as people, as you would praise a student working in the classroom.
● Show respect for the opposing players, coaches, and fans.
● Respect the integrity and judgment of game officials. Understand that they are doing their best to promote the student athlete.
● Recognize and show appreciation for outstanding play by either team.
● Be a positive role model through your actions and by censuring those around you at events where behavior is unbecoming.
Our Middle Schools encourage communication between coaches and parents, but timing is very important. After a game, when emotions are running high by coaches, players, and spectators alike, is notthe right time to discuss important issues. Please set up a meeting for the following day to discuss matters with your child’s coach. Appropriate concerns to discuss with coaches:
● The treatment of your student athlete
● Ways to help your student improve
● Concerns about your student athlete’s behavior
Itis very difficult to accept your student athlete not playing as much as you hoped. Coaches are professional. They make decisions based on what they believe is best for all the student athletes involved. As you have seen from the previous list, certain things can and should be discussed with your student’s coach. Other things, such as those listed below, must be left to the discretion of the coach.